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“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.” 
― Mahatma Gandhi

Deep happiness is not something that just appears.  Deep happiness is cultivated through the choices you make.  Your choices influence your perspective. How you perceive your personal world allows you to imagine how it would be if something were added, changed or eliminated.  That’s how dreams come about.  You have an idea that your world would be better if _____which creates a desire to _____ which turns into a vision that holds the hope that true happiness will follow.
At the end of the day, what most of us desire is to be happy.   Happy with ourselves, happy with enough money, good health, good friends, a significant other, a nice place to live, good food etc.  Our expectation is that the sense of happiness comes with it all.   Commonly asked questions are:  Will it make you happy?  Does money bring happiness?
I ask my clients,  “What do you want and will it bring you happiness?”  I’ve heard all kinds of answers from ‘what are you crazy, of course it will make me happy” to “I’m not sure, but I want it anyway?”  And therein lies the dilemma!  What is happiness and more importantly, what is happiness for you?
When my clients seek out coaching, they bring desire, vision and hope that they can achieve what they feel will improve their lives. They are seekers of happiness who possess the motivation and courage to invest in themselves.  It is through the process of working together that we turn their vision of happiness into reality.
Questions to Ponder:
What does the “feeling of happy’ feels like?  Have the demands of daily living overwhelmed my ability to feel happy?  Does my happiness come from someone else? Am I happy only when I’m somewhere other than where I am?  What do I need to feel happy?
If you are happy with yourself and your environment hold onto it.  It is precious!  Life is too short to waste energy being disappointed.
Would love to hear about your happiness!   Wishing you happiness ….. Chris

At this time of transition from the long cold, grey winter days to the much awaited sunny spring, we might take a moment to ask ourselves if we take life for granted? Often we're busy filling our thoughts with what we don’t have. I wonder, when do we think about what we do have and what we like about this life that we wake up to every day.
 I was at a meeting not too long ago when all of a sudden one of my colleagues, taking a sip of water, began choking. Of course, we were stunned, some of us ran for help while others prepared to deliver the Heimlich maneuver. Our colleague recovered but all of us were frightened that something as simple as swallowing water could end up so life threatening. However, another friend of mine wasn’t so fortunate. She was on a long awaited cruise vacation, having loads of fun, when she slipped, hitting her head which left her in a coma. She died three months later never speaking another word.   As we remember the 2013 Boston Marathon , I think of the robust runners and hopeful supporters so involved with the joy of the day, when something disastrous stopped their lives without notice.  In Boston, it was a bomb… for my friend, it was a fall… for those of us who still have our lives to live, we came away with a heightened awareness of the fragility of life.
I certainly don’t like to think of bad things happening when we least expect it, especially during fun times…such a drag!  But, while we’re transitioning from heavy coats to lighter jackets, eagerly awaiting those consistent sunny spring days, maybe we could pause a moment, fill our thoughts with all that we have and give thanks for being alive ... which leads me to the question, "How do you  honor your life?"

In my estimation, enjoying your life is your birthright, being happy is allowed. As you know, I’m all about you livin' your dream!  What if you recall how “happy” feels, then duplicate it at least once a day?

Enjoy every day … Blessings, Chris

Lately, I’ve been thinking about all the mistruths, alternative facts, and other non-accurate speech dominating the news reports these days.  That got me to thinking about how we speak our truth.  Usually, we apply the concept of how we speak our truth to others which, I believe, is always something that needs conscious evaluation lest we fall into bad habits of being deceitful. The question, however, is do we ever apply the concept to how we speak to ourselves?
We have inner dialogue filled with all kinds of thoughts, opinions and insults collected over the years. For many, these insults have shaped the way we see ourselves.  You may be familiar with comments like “so clumsy”, “never do anything right”, “not smart enough” ,“not good enough”.  How often do we repeat old insults applying them to new situations, particularly when attempting to do something different, improve our environment or trying to make our dreams come true.  I wonder how much conscious evaluation we lend to our inner speech.
I think it’s time to consciously evaluate how we speak to ourselves - is it your voice you hear or the voice of experiences past?   Here are a few questions to ask:   How do you encourage yourself?  How do you support yourself emotionally?  Do you stand up for yourself?  What types of compliments do you give to yourself?  Do you speak your truth to you?
Speaking your truth starts with you acknowledging how you speak to yourself - the rest is what you want to do about it.
Let me help you define and speak your truth. Please call me at 978- 645-1982 for a free ½ consult.
Spring is almost here…time to leave winter behind and embrace the sun and ourselves!!   Have fun ... Blessings, Chris