Deep happiness is not something that just appears.  Deep happiness is cultivated through the choices you make.  Your choices influence your perspective. How you perceive your personal world allows you to imagine how it would be if something were added, changed or eliminated.  That’s how dreams come about.  You have an idea that your world would be better if _____which creates a desire to _____ which turns into a vision that holds the hope that true happiness will follow.
At the end of the day, what most of us desire is to be happy.   Happy with ourselves, happy with enough money, good health, good friends, a significant other, a nice place to live, good food etc.  Our expectation is that the sense of happiness comes with it all.   Commonly asked questions are:  Will it make you happy?  Does money bring happiness?
I ask my clients,  “What do you want and will it bring you happiness?”  I’ve heard all kinds of answers from ‘what are you crazy, of course it will make me happy” to “I’m not sure, but I want it anyway?”  And therein lies the dilemma!  What is happiness and more importantly, what is happiness for you?
When my clients seek out coaching, they bring desire, vision and hope that they can achieve what they feel will improve their lives. They are seekers of happiness who possess the motivation and courage to invest in themselves.  It is through the process of working together that we turn their vision of happiness into reality.
Questions to Ponder:
What does the “feeling of happy’ feels like?  Have the demands of daily living overwhelmed my ability to feel happy?  Does my happiness come from someone else? Am I happy only when I’m somewhere other than where I am?  What do I need to feel happy?
If you are happy with yourself and your environment hold onto it.  It is precious!  Life is too short to waste energy being disappointed.
Would love to hear about your happiness!   Wishing you happiness ….. Chris

At this time of transition from the long cold, grey winter days to the much awaited sunny spring, we might take a moment to ask ourselves if we take life for granted? Often we're busy filling our thoughts with what we don’t have. I wonder, when do we think about what we do have and what we like about this life that we wake up to every day.
 I was at a meeting not too long ago when all of a sudden one of my colleagues, taking a sip of water, began choking. Of course, we were stunned, some of us ran for help while others prepared to deliver the Heimlich maneuver. Our colleague recovered but all of us were frightened that something as simple as swallowing water could end up so life threatening. However, another friend of mine wasn’t so fortunate. She was on a long awaited cruise vacation, having loads of fun, when she slipped, hitting her head which left her in a coma. She died three months later never speaking another word.   As we remember the 2013 Boston Marathon , I think of the robust runners and hopeful supporters so involved with the joy of the day, when something disastrous stopped their lives without notice.  In Boston, it was a bomb… for my friend, it was a fall… for those of us who still have our lives to live, we came away with a heightened awareness of the fragility of life.
I certainly don’t like to think of bad things happening when we least expect it, especially during fun times…such a drag!  But, while we’re transitioning from heavy coats to lighter jackets, eagerly awaiting those consistent sunny spring days, maybe we could pause a moment, fill our thoughts with all that we have and give thanks for being alive ... which leads me to the question, "How do you  honor your life?"

In my estimation, enjoying your life is your birthright, being happy is allowed. As you know, I’m all about you livin' your dream!  What if you recall how “happy” feels, then duplicate it at least once a day?

Enjoy every day … Blessings, Chris

Valentine’s Day is a time for cards, candy, flowers, balloons, and maybe even a special night out to celebrate the love between couples, new and old.   It’s a time to express the personal love that flows between you and your special person. The secret to a happy relationship lies in your ability to communicate clearly, acknowledge when you are wrong and not hold a grudge. Relationships, including marriage, are built on trust, fidelity, honesty, consistency and reliability. And, a touch of adventure will keep the romance alive!
The key to relationship happiness comes from how you feel when your partner demonstrates a genuine concern for you by his or her thoughtfulness in speech and action. Is your partner understanding and flexible when there are conflicting demands on your time?  Do you feel cherished?  Couple relationships need to be nurtured continuously.
Paying attention to the above will lead to a satisfying and healthy relationship.  For some people this can be hard to do and if you have ADHD it can be even more challenging.   If that’s true for you, let me assist you in creating a healthy relationship where both of you can feel cherished.
Happy Valentine’s Day………have fun………Chris

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Have you ever jokingly blamed your forgetfulness or disorganization on ADHD?  Or, seriously wondered why, no matter how hard you try, you can never stay organized?
Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder is a genetic neurobiological condition usually diagnosed in childhood continuing into adulthood, much like diabetes or heart problems.  It can also result from a head trauma.  There are three core symptoms of ADHD: inattention, impulsivity and hyperactivity.
For many it is undiagnosed until circumstances in our life do not  keep our “habits” under control.
Habits like:
* forgetfulness
* not following through on promises or expectations
* being distracted to the point of not listening
* being too active - being too withdrawn
Usually, these  are greeted with accusations of “being lazy”, “not reliable”, “uncaring”.
You know you’re not any of those things.  But, those labels feed negative self-esteem diminishing self-confidence and lead to an attitude of “why bother”.
If this sounds familiar to you, it’s important to check out whether ADHD is a part of your life.  If you’re not able to make effective changes to accomplish that job promotion or maintain a caring relationship,  consider the possibility that ADHD may be part of the reason.

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Vision to Action, Professional & Personal Coaching, offers Coaching for Adults with ADHD.   If the above behaviors are significantly effecting your everyday life, it’s time to create new behaviors to deal with the above and other “habits” associated with ADHD.  It is easier to tackle these nagging behaviors together,  re-balancing and re-energizing your approach to living your best life making ADHD work for you.
People with ADHD have untapped abilities that coaching can bring into awareness.
Contact me for a free half hour consultation (978) 645-1982.
Check out CHADD, The National Resource on ADHD at www.CHADD.org
Wishing you good health, happiness and wealth………….Chris