“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.” 
― Mahatma Gandhi

Deep happiness is not something that just appears.  Deep happiness is cultivated through the choices you make.  Your choices influence your perspective. How you perceive your personal world allows you to imagine how it would be if something were added, changed or eliminated.  That’s how dreams come about.  You have an idea that your world would be better if _____which creates a desire to _____ which turns into a vision that holds the hope that true happiness will follow.
At the end of the day, what most of us desire is to be happy.   Happy with ourselves, happy with enough money, good health, good friends, a significant other, a nice place to live, good food etc.  Our expectation is that the sense of happiness comes with it all.   Commonly asked questions are:  Will it make you happy?  Does money bring happiness?
I ask my clients,  “What do you want and will it bring you happiness?”  I’ve heard all kinds of answers from ‘what are you crazy, of course it will make me happy” to “I’m not sure, but I want it anyway?”  And therein lies the dilemma!  What is happiness and more importantly, what is happiness for you?
When my clients seek out coaching, they bring desire, vision and hope that they can achieve what they feel will improve their lives. They are seekers of happiness who possess the motivation and courage to invest in themselves.  It is through the process of working together that we turn their vision of happiness into reality.
Questions to Ponder:
What does the “feeling of happy’ feels like?  Have the demands of daily living overwhelmed my ability to feel happy?  Does my happiness come from someone else? Am I happy only when I’m somewhere other than where I am?  What do I need to feel happy?
If you are happy with yourself and your environment hold onto it.  It is precious!  Life is too short to waste energy being disappointed.
Would love to hear about your happiness!   Wishing you happiness ….. Chris

Lately, I’ve been thinking about all the mistruths, alternative facts, and other non-accurate speech dominating the news reports these days.  That got me to thinking about how we speak our truth.  Usually, we apply the concept of how we speak our truth to others which, I believe, is always something that needs conscious evaluation lest we fall into bad habits of being deceitful. The question, however, is do we ever apply the concept to how we speak to ourselves?
We have inner dialogue filled with all kinds of thoughts, opinions and insults collected over the years. For many, these insults have shaped the way we see ourselves.  You may be familiar with comments like “so clumsy”, “never do anything right”, “not smart enough” ,“not good enough”.  How often do we repeat old insults applying them to new situations, particularly when attempting to do something different, improve our environment or trying to make our dreams come true.  I wonder how much conscious evaluation we lend to our inner speech.
I think it’s time to consciously evaluate how we speak to ourselves - is it your voice you hear or the voice of experiences past?   Here are a few questions to ask:   How do you encourage yourself?  How do you support yourself emotionally?  Do you stand up for yourself?  What types of compliments do you give to yourself?  Do you speak your truth to you?
Speaking your truth starts with you acknowledging how you speak to yourself - the rest is what you want to do about it.
Let me help you define and speak your truth. Please call me at 978- 645-1982 for a free ½ consult.
Spring is almost here…time to leave winter behind and embrace the sun and ourselves!!   Have fun ... Blessings, Chris

 

Valentine’s Day is a time for cards, candy, flowers, balloons, and maybe even a special night out to celebrate the love between couples, new and old.   It’s a time to express the personal love that flows between you and your special person. The secret to a happy relationship lies in your ability to communicate clearly, acknowledge when you are wrong and not hold a grudge. Relationships, including marriage, are built on trust, fidelity, honesty, consistency and reliability. And, a touch of adventure will keep the romance alive!
The key to relationship happiness comes from how you feel when your partner demonstrates a genuine concern for you by his or her thoughtfulness in speech and action. Is your partner understanding and flexible when there are conflicting demands on your time?  Do you feel cherished?  Couple relationships need to be nurtured continuously.
Paying attention to the above will lead to a satisfying and healthy relationship.  For some people this can be hard to do and if you have ADHD it can be even more challenging.   If that’s true for you, let me assist you in creating a healthy relationship where both of you can feel cherished.
Happy Valentine’s Day………have fun………Chris