Deep happiness is not something that just appears.  Deep happiness is cultivated through the choices you make.  Your choices influence your perspective. How you perceive your personal world allows you to imagine how it would be if something were added, changed or eliminated.  That’s how dreams come about.  You have an idea that your world would be better if _____which creates a desire to _____ which turns into a vision that holds the hope that true happiness will follow.
At the end of the day, what most of us desire is to be happy.   Happy with ourselves, happy with enough money, good health, good friends, a significant other, a nice place to live, good food etc.  Our expectation is that the sense of happiness comes with it all.   Commonly asked questions are:  Will it make you happy?  Does money bring happiness?
I ask my clients,  “What do you want and will it bring you happiness?”  I’ve heard all kinds of answers from ‘what are you crazy, of course it will make me happy” to “I’m not sure, but I want it anyway?”  And therein lies the dilemma!  What is happiness and more importantly, what is happiness for you?
When my clients seek out coaching, they bring desire, vision and hope that they can achieve what they feel will improve their lives. They are seekers of happiness who possess the motivation and courage to invest in themselves.  It is through the process of working together that we turn their vision of happiness into reality.
Questions to Ponder:
What does the “feeling of happy’ feels like?  Have the demands of daily living overwhelmed my ability to feel happy?  Does my happiness come from someone else? Am I happy only when I’m somewhere other than where I am?  What do I need to feel happy?
If you are happy with yourself and your environment hold onto it.  It is precious!  Life is too short to waste energy being disappointed.
Would love to hear about your happiness!   Wishing you happiness ….. Chris

Valentine’s Day is a time for cards, candy, flowers, balloons, and maybe even a special night out to celebrate the love between couples, new and old.   It’s a time to express the personal love that flows between you and your special person. The secret to a happy relationship lies in your ability to communicate clearly, acknowledge when you are wrong and not hold a grudge. Relationships, including marriage, are built on trust, fidelity, honesty, consistency and reliability. And, a touch of adventure will keep the romance alive!
The key to relationship happiness comes from how you feel when your partner demonstrates a genuine concern for you by his or her thoughtfulness in speech and action. Is your partner understanding and flexible when there are conflicting demands on your time?  Do you feel cherished?  Couple relationships need to be nurtured continuously.
Paying attention to the above will lead to a satisfying and healthy relationship.  For some people this can be hard to do and if you have ADHD it can be even more challenging.   If that’s true for you, let me assist you in creating a healthy relationship where both of you can feel cherished.
Happy Valentine’s Day………have fun………Chris

Welcome to 2017!! You’ve made your New Year’s Resolution to help you become your best self —exercise more; eat healthier; become more organized; stop procrastinating; etc., etc, etc.
You started out with energy, good intentions and a positive attitude. Now at midpoint - just 2 short weeks ago - you feel that motivation fading.
Resolutions state what we want to do. More often than not, a plan for how we want to do it is not included. We say to ourselves the goal is so obvious, just do it. And then, we don’t!
Do not let another year go by wishing or beating yourself up for not following through on that
important Resolution. Ask yourself: What do I need in order to accomplish my Resolution? How will I stay motivated? Make a plan……or call 978-645-1982 to develop an effective action plan to accomplish all you want to do for yourself. If not now, when?
May 2017 be the year you want it to be……Make it count!
Blessings, Chris

The religious message of the holidays tells us we are in the season of spiritual love,  a time of opening our hearts to others, known and unknown,  and practicing  kindness and thoughtfulness towards all.    And, in the spirit of the season, we lovingly respond with donations, volunteering and praying for others.
I meet so many people who give unconditionally to others, especially during the holidays.  However, they tell me that they feel unworthy of receiving love.  Whether it’s because of what they’ve concluded in childhood or their hearts were broken on the way to romance, they feel unable to receive.   I  ask you during this holiday time, while you’re extending spiritual love to others, to extend that same spiritual love to yourself.  Now is the time to open your heart to love, nurture yourself with prayers, positive thoughts and gratefulness for who you are.  Let yourself receive. 
Whatever your religious beliefs are, make time to honor yourself, as well as others, with the spiritual love of this holiday season.
Just for the fun of it, try this little exercise:
      Make a list of everything you can think of that answers the question:
           What do I like about Myself?
           When you are done, then change the word “like” to "Love".             
                           
A pleasant, blessed holiday season to all…………….Chris

Your Best Self

Since the presidential election, the most consistent questions I’ve heard from others are ‘who do I believe’ and ‘who do I to trust’. As we’ve seen during this election process, the business of politics brings out the best and the worst in us. Whether we agree or not with the outcome, I think it is fair to say that we all want the best for our country. How we answer the above questions is dependent on the values that guide our choices and direct the way we live our lives.

In anticipation of celebrating Thanksgiving, the football game and eating that delicious turkey, we might include a time to reflect on what we believe in. When is the last time we took time to articulate the values that we hold dear? While waiting for the dust to settle regarding the direction the country will move in, it seems to me that we have a unique opportunity this Thanksgiving to think about our core values

A tip to help answer the above questions is as follows:

“Acknowledge how you feel NOW and Start where you are TODAY”.

+ Make a factual list of what you have that you like and what you have that you don’t like.

What do you think about what you identified.

+ Write down what you want. It can be as simple as improving on what you have or it can be three page essay of how you envision your life to be.

+ Now list the personal values you live your life by.

+ Ask: “Does my professional and personal life reflect my values?”

Knowing your personal values guides your choices especially when faced by conflicting standards of behavior.

When you sit down to give thanks this Thanksgiving Day , also give thanks for knowing that the choices you make come from the truest sense of Your Best Self. When you know yourself you know who to believe and who to trust — it starts with you.

Until next month, do something nice for yourself and have fun……Chris

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Have you ever jokingly blamed your forgetfulness or disorganization on ADHD?  Or, seriously wondered why, no matter how hard you try, you can never stay organized?
Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder is a genetic neurobiological condition usually diagnosed in childhood continuing into adulthood, much like diabetes or heart problems.  It can also result from a head trauma.  There are three core symptoms of ADHD: inattention, impulsivity and hyperactivity.
For many it is undiagnosed until circumstances in our life do not  keep our “habits” under control.
Habits like:
* forgetfulness
* not following through on promises or expectations
* being distracted to the point of not listening
* being too active - being too withdrawn
Usually, these  are greeted with accusations of “being lazy”, “not reliable”, “uncaring”.
You know you’re not any of those things.  But, those labels feed negative self-esteem diminishing self-confidence and lead to an attitude of “why bother”.
If this sounds familiar to you, it’s important to check out whether ADHD is a part of your life.  If you’re not able to make effective changes to accomplish that job promotion or maintain a caring relationship,  consider the possibility that ADHD may be part of the reason.

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Vision to Action, Professional & Personal Coaching, offers Coaching for Adults with ADHD.   If the above behaviors are significantly effecting your everyday life, it’s time to create new behaviors to deal with the above and other “habits” associated with ADHD.  It is easier to tackle these nagging behaviors together,  re-balancing and re-energizing your approach to living your best life making ADHD work for you.
People with ADHD have untapped abilities that coaching can bring into awareness.
Contact me for a free half hour consultation (978) 645-1982.
Check out CHADD, The National Resource on ADHD at www.CHADD.org
Wishing you good health, happiness and wealth………….Chris