Since the presidential election, the most consistent questions I’ve heard from others are ‘who do I believe’ and ‘who do I to trust’. As we’ve seen during this election process, the business of politics brings out the best and the worst in us. Whether we agree or not with the outcome, I think it is fair to say that we all want the best for our country. How we answer the above questions is dependent on the values that guide our choices and direct the way we live our lives.
In anticipation of celebrating Thanksgiving, the football game and eating that delicious turkey, we might include a time to reflect on what we believe in. When is the last time we took time to articulate the values that we hold dear? While waiting for the dust to settle regarding the direction the country will move in, it seems to me that we have a unique opportunity this Thanksgiving to think about our core values
A tip to help answer the above questions is as follows:
“Acknowledge how you feel NOW and Start where you are TODAY”.
+ Make a factual list of what you have that you like and what you have that you don’t like.
What do you think about what you identified.
+ Write down what you want. It can be as simple as improving on what you have or it can be three page essay of how you envision your life to be.
+ Now list the personal values you live your life by.
+ Ask: “Does my professional and personal life reflect my values?”
Knowing your personal values guides your choices especially when faced by conflicting standards of behavior.
When you sit down to give thanks this Thanksgiving Day , also give thanks for knowing that the choices you make come from the truest sense of Your Best Self. When you know yourself you know who to believe and who to trust — it starts with you.
Until next month, do something nice for yourself and have fun……Chris
Have you ever jokingly blamed your forgetfulness or disorganization on ADHD? Or, seriously wondered why, no matter how hard you try, you can never stay organized?
Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder is a genetic neurobiological condition usually diagnosed in childhood continuing into adulthood, much like diabetes or heart problems. It can also result from a head trauma. There are three core symptoms of ADHD: inattention, impulsivity and hyperactivity.
For many it is undiagnosed until circumstances in our life do not keep our “habits” under control.
* not following through on promises or expectations
* being distracted to the point of not listening
* being too active - being too withdrawn
Usually, these are greeted with accusations of “being lazy”, “not reliable”, “uncaring”.
You know you’re not any of those things. But, those labels feed negative self-esteem diminishing self-confidence and lead to an attitude of “why bother”.
If this sounds familiar to you, it’s important to check out whether ADHD is a part of your life. If you’re not able to make effective changes to accomplish that job promotion or maintain a caring relationship, consider the possibility that ADHD may be part of the reason.
Vision to Action, Professional & Personal Coaching, offers Coaching for Adults with ADHD. If the above behaviors are significantly effecting your everyday life, it’s time to create new behaviors to deal with the above and other “habits” associated with ADHD. It is easier to tackle these nagging behaviors together, re-balancing and re-energizing your approach to living your best life making ADHD work for you.
People with ADHD have untapped abilities that coaching can bring into awareness.
Contact me for a free half hour consultation (978) 645-1982.
Check out CHADD, The National Resource on ADHD at www.CHADD.org
Wishing you good health, happiness and wealth………….Chris
July 4th, Independence Day, a time for our country to celebrate its freedom and autonomy! Our weekend activities are filled with backyard barbecues, parades, concerts and an array
of fireworks that fill our senses with love and joy!
I want to urge you - in the spirit of Independence Day - to take a moment to celebrate the person you are RIGHT NOW. I invite you to appreciate who you are, what you have overcome, what you have accomplished - and what you may still want to accomplish.
In the busy lives we lead, it is always a good thing - at least once a year - to consciously celebrate our lives appreciating ourselves and letting that feeling fill our senses with love
Happy 4th…….have fun……. till next month, Chris
A time to pay tribute to your loved one who died too soon … always too soon … a time for memories and reflection upon their legacy. It is also a time to hold tight to the process of living. You can honor your lost love by living everyday to its fullest, doing for yourself what time did not allow your loved one to do. Embrace the day in their memory and move forward with hope, love and energy towards your future. The process of living continues.
The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be only the beginning.
- Ivy Baker Priest
A Willingness to Change
How often do you wish some “thing” in your life was different? It could be about your job, your relationship or something about your personal being - you wish it could be different but making it so doesn’t seem to happen. How come? Does that voice in your head tell you its too late or you don’t know how or what you want only happens for others? Do you defeat yourself before you start?
So many of us talk ourselves right out of what we long for. But, what if you had an easy way to override that voice? What if you had a sort of roadmap to get to where you wanted to go - and all you had to do was take some time to ponder (pondering is good) your life and imagine how it could be if you allowed yourself to follow your dream? Would you try it? I’m offering you just that — a simple do-it-yourself process - a road map, if you will - towards your journey of self-fulfillment.
Step 1: Identify how you live your life now by sifting through what you like about who you are, how you are and what you do.
Step 2…Identify what you don’t like about you, your career, your relationship, etc.
Step 3…Once you have your What I Like/Dislike list start thinking about what you would like to improve upon…Re-Energize your creative mind with considering the possibilities - imagine taking what you discover you like and creating a vision of how you want it to be. (remember not to let that discouraging inner voice distract you) Try thinking out of the box!
Exploring these areas with this simple approach of like/dislike brings you in touch with how you feel about what you do — which brings increased clarity about the direction you want or need to go in.
Step 4…Re-Create: take what you’ve learned and what you’ve imagined and start to identify what you need to do to make your dream a reality.
When you have a willingness to change strengthened by allowing yourself to seriously consider the possibilities, often your possibilities turn into probabilities! It’s all about the Re-Balance!
If you get stuck, contact me. Till next month, have some fun and Happy Spring …..Chris
The choices you make today will influence the rest of your life
As we move into Spring, we look forward to sunnier days and flowering trees and plants. The gestation time of winter is completed; it’s a time of renewal. Usually, we welcome the Spring by cleaning closets, changing fashion and sprucing up our environment.
This transition also provides us with the opportunity to spruce up the way we live our lives. Do we choose the same old, same old — or do we look for fresh, new, energizing ways to live the upcoming days? And, how about the way you think, act and believe? How do these characteristics of your personality influence your choices?
Thinking: Is your self-talk supportive; are your thoughts filled with positive words and perspectives of situations or others?
Behaviors: Are you kind in your dealings with others and yourself; are you mindful of the way you attend to yourself as well as your living environment?
Beliefs: How do you acknowledge your spiritual connections; how does it serve you?
Reviewing the underpinnings of who you are helps you to better understand the choices you make. The choices you make result in the life style you live. The life style you live tells the world who you are. Is your way of thinking, behaving and believing reflective of the person you want to be?
Your choices should benefit you and others, ultimately bringing you happiness!
Till next month, be kind to yourself…and have fun….Chris
“How do I love thee….let me count the ways…” A line from a long ago poem but a thought to ponder during this month when we outwardly express our love with candy and flowers and cards. Receiving love offerings from others or someone really special is what we wait for…what we measure…a little something … a large something that shows us we are loved. Demonstrating love for others is what Valentine’s Day is all about. It can be fun and exciting!
But, what about a demonstration of how we love ourselves? How do you let yourself know that you love yourself? Do you give yourself a present … send yourself a card … look in the mirror and repeat “I love you” three times?
The most important gift to give yourself is that of benevolent self-talk. Do you speak kindly to yourself? Do you say encouraging words to yourself? Do you know how you feel and do you love who you are?
Demonstrating love for yourself in thought, word and deed is important. As February, the month of love, comes to an end, why not “count the ways” you show yourself how much you love you? It’s vital to your well-being!
Till we meet again…have fun and be kind to yourself… Chris Hope your Valentine’s Day was filled with love!!
How Do I Love Thee by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
How many times have you made a New Year’s Resolution with all good intention and determination to follow through? And about now, just a few weeks later, that motivation for change, or self-improvement seems to be waning? How does that happen, you wonder - one minute you’re all in and the next, it seems like the idea came from someone else’s mind - and you wish you could introduce yourself to that person who had this great idea.
Well, you sort of can. There are techniques and approaches to introduce you to that part of you that has those great ideas for self-preservation and self-improvement. I can help you with that. But, if you want, you can help yourself by taking small steps to keep that intention alive.
In addition to waning motivation, the cold days and grey skies of winter don’t help increase the energy to stick to the Resolution. Plus, the expectation of snow further diminishes our resolve. In my opinion, snow is only great when it first falls and if you like to ski, sled or snowboard! If you live in a warm climate, the sun may help but when your resolve weakens and your resolutions loose their intensity, there are ways that you can revive your interest.
Salvaging your intention for the new year is all about keeping the intention alive!
1. Put your intention on a piece of paper - even the back of an envelope - and tape it to your bathroom mirror….read it every morning and every night.
2. While eating breakfast, get in the habit of starting off with a deep breath…not suggesting you slow down… although that might be helpful…am just suggesting that you get into the habit of taking deep breaths. You can also use deep breathing throughout your day. It really helps your body and feeds your brain.
3. Review that intention and come up with 2 small steps that would give your intention some legs. You can pick a color or a picture that captures your desire and post it somewhere noticeable to remind you of the energy that created the intention.
4. Obviously, eating healthy, decreasing alcohol intake and being consistent with exercising is always helpful…but that may be out of your reach at this time, or that might be your intention.
5. Listening to upbeat music, writing letters to yourself, finding one good thing in your day and giving yourself a small reward — not alcohol or sugar — every day.
These are all helpful hints to keep your spirits up and your motivation active. They are all small, easy steps you can take to help yourself stay focused on your prize. For more personalized suggestions, you can always contact me.
Till we meet again, be kind to yourself …Chris By the way, Happy New Year!